How to Behave when DeadA notorious tease, he may pretendnot to be aware of you. Just wait.He must speak first. Thenyou may begin to praise him.Remember:sincerity and naturalnesscount for more than wit.His jokes may strike you asabstruse. Only laugh if he does.Gifts?They say he's mad for art,but whether in the meltingelegiac mode of, say, thisVase of Poppiesor, turning the mirrorto his own face, a bronze skullgorging on a snake --that is a matter of taste.In any case, the expenseis what he notices.What to wear. Some authoritiesstill insist on black.But really, in this modern age,your best is all that is required. -- Tom Disch
Thomas Disch, novelist, poet, critic, playwright, and children's book author, is dead. He took his own life after a series of tragedies. NY Times obit
here.For me, discovering Disch was world altering. He expanded my horizons and expectations. From the
not just for kids book, The Brave Little Toaster to his book on poetry
The Castle of Indolence, one of the few books of criticism I have read and enjoyed for pleasure, I have enjoyed his writing for years. He taught me more about how to read with a critical ear than anyone else.
His book on science fiction,
The Dreams Our Stuff is Made Of: How Science Fiction Conquered the World is a must read for all, even those who disdain the genre.
He will be missed. His blog is
here.